What comes to your mind when you think about romance and relationships?
Do YOU feel romance in your relationship? What might you YOURSELF offer so that you might give and receive romance in your relationship?
Do you know of any loving, romantic interlude your partner longs to experience?
If you don’t know, have you ever asked your partner what that might be?
Surprise your partner…Ask them…tonight…
We all experience periods in life where we feel our stress level soar, don’t we?
It could be emanating from our jobs, our business, our marriage, our kids.
We feel out of control…vulnerable…powerless to ease the stress. After all, our jobs, businesses, marriages, family are complex life situations we can’t simply “check out of” when we feel some heat!
The Roddys discuss Step #1 to easing stress…Reflection and Responsibility!
It’s so important for couples to thank one another for all the helpful things we do to keep our marriage, our hearth, and our health on a positive course!
It matters…it matter a lot!
All week Bill Roddy appeared to have a heavy heart. I know him; I know what is happening in his life; I know what he was feeling:
“I work so hard. Yet it sometimes seems like I’m standing still, or at the very least, spinning my wheels!
Do you ever feel that way? The world little appreciates your skills…how hard you work to keep juggling all those pins in the air to support your family, your business, your community?
“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” ~ Voltaire.
In this video, The Roddys share THEIR perspective on one of Gail’s idiosyncrasies that drive Bill NUTS.
Here we are, using a certain little marriage negotiation tactic that allows us to live in harmony…
Well…pretty much!!!
Remember those enduring little idiosyncrasies about your partner you just LOVED?
Today, are some of those enduring idiosyncrasies a little bit uh…less endearing?
Do a few of them even make you want to throw up your hands in frustration?
In this video, The Roddys share the small things about each other’s behavior and habits that we regularly negotiate.
It’s all part of creating and keeping our marriage the loving and safe place we want it to be!
Money management issues loom large in many relationships.
Do you and your mate struggle to decide what is the best way to manage the family income?
Sometimes it can be challenging and frustrating, can’t it?
We struggled mightily with money management in the early years of our marriage.
While we still try to maintain balance between Bill’s view of money and Gail’s view of money….
This video shows how and why we’ve worked out a truce!
We’d love to hear how you and your mate collaborate in keeping YOUR family money management on a steady track!
We thought you might like to officially meet The Roddys!
Our series of 3 short videos on:
Enough said…
Lights, camera, action!
Bill and Gail Roddy laugh a lot! It’s one of the many ways we bond as husband and wife, keeping our marriage a playful space that feels safe, secure, and sacred—a sheltered place for us to grow.
During disagreements—yes, even when those rip-roaring arguments arise usually one of us will crack a joke to end the tension
“I’m calling your mother to tell her how badly I’m behaving.”
Who could keep arguing after that playful zinger?
It’s been a thrill for us to have you follow our blogging. Your comments and support encourage us to continue to share our message of relationship mentoring and community.
We invite you to join us as we embark on this next phase of our journey: to share our message of positive values through videos.
We hope you enjoy these 2 short clips—the first in our series entitled:
Manhood Moments and Gail’s Gems
If you like them, let us know!
We are having a ball creating them; filming lots of bloopers; laughing; starting all over again!
View these two, then come back next week. We are diligently practicing creating more.
And you know what they say about “practice!”
July 24, 2012
“Mrs. Roddy, I’m so frustrated with my husband, “John.”
“You know we’ve only been married for 3 years. If I’d known how he managed money…”
A young woman I mentor invited me for coffee. She said she wanted to get together and talk out her frustrations with someone experienced in “dealing with a husband.”
OK. I guess that’s me.
“We had another huge fight yesterday about money, Mrs. Roddy. John calls me a tightwad. He says I’m cheap. I say he blows through money like crazy and never thinks about the repercussions.”
“I feel for you, honey. I don’t know a married couple that is exactly on the same page when it comes to managing their money. That goes for Bill and Gail Roddy, too. I can’t say we’re worlds apart, but I’m a better money manager, more frugal than Bill, and he’d be the first to concur.”
“You need to make every effort to work it out though. That very well may include professional help. I don’t mean just a financial planner. I mean a therapist—a professional that can walk with you through your issues with money. We all have those issues and they usually go back to our family of origin and how we learned the meaning and importance of money.
“Here are a couple of resources I invite you to check out to help you get the dialogue with John started.
“The Hard Questions, 100 Essential Questions To Ask Before You Say ‘I Do’ is a book I have gifted to about 6 young women over the last few years. They were either engaged or in a committed relationship.
“It’s a small (less than 100 pages) and easy to read book. It is valuable even for couples already married.
“I think it’s interesting that Chapter 2 discusses Money perceptions. That discussion is second after Chapter 1 on Home. That means Money precedes chapters on Sex, Work, Family, Children, Community and Friends, and Spiritual Life.
Based on my many years of marital experience, I’d have put Money as Chapter 1.
“Check out this powerful little book. I like that it’s written in a non-judging manner. Young women give me feedback that their mates actually enjoyed reading it together as a couple.
This link to the Smart Money article gives tips you can share as well with John.
Please be sensitive to John’s perception. I find that in dealing with Bill, (male ego); I need to keep the information sharing light-hearted. No hard sell—no pressure. You know your mate and how he processes new information. Keep that in mind!
http://www.smartmoney.com/spend/family-money/the-six-financial-mistakes-couples-make-15414/
Take care, honey. Work on this with John. I’m certainly open if you’d like to get together in a few months!
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